Text Ettiquette

Actual text msg between me and a GF

My text msg to a GF regarding a blind date

Like most of the women who are single in the city, my weekends (when I'm not stuck working @ my thankless job) are spent having early afternoon brunches, running errands throughout the day and spending the evening getting ready for the nights events. This weekend I had the pleasure of getting an invite to an exclusive listening party celebrating new, up and coming Hip Hop and R&B artist at the Canadian Urban Music Conference. Although the music and atmosphere were great the best part of the night had to be the conversation!

 

It seems that every time a single person meets another single person the topic of conversation always steers towards dating; Who you're dating? Where you're dating? How to get a date? This night was no different...except for the clichéd connection between us (the Y Generation) and technology. The discussion began something like this:

 
Single Guy "I can't stand the games women play! I text her saying>
          How was your day? What are you up to this weekend?
Then 2 or 3 days later I get a text back saying>
         Sorry I've been busy. This weekend I'm hanging out with my friends but maybe we can do something next weekend
By then I'm over it. I know she's playing some stupid game by waiting a couple days to respond and why would I want to waste my time with some chick who wants to play games. It takes a minute to write a quick text. If you're busy then let me know you're busy and when would be a better time to talk or text."
 
Single Girl "But you guys are the reason we don't respond right away! Because when we do or when we make ourselves available you say we're too needy and clingy."
 
Single Guy "No, that's not true. If he's into he wants to hear from you end of story. But I mean you don't need to tell your whole life story over text message because that's a turn off!"
 
Single Girl(s) "Wait what!? But you just said guys like to hear from the women they like."
 
Single Guy #2 "Ya, but we don't want to read paragraphs over text message. Regardless of what is being said or asked when we text Goodnight or Talk to you later conversation over.

It went back and forth like this for a while until I giggled and said "I can't believe we've been talking THIS long about text messaging!" Then another young woman chimed in "Well text messaging, tweeting, instagramming & facebook messaging it's the way we communicate now. Technology is the prime source of communication for our generation dating or otherwise."

 

ACTUAL TEXT MSG


What are your thoughts on text messaging when dating? Text a lot or a little? Is voice to voice conversation obsolete?