What is "The Man Ban" you ask? Well my BFF describes it as her decision to hit "the refresh button" on dating. After years of dating losers, douchebags and heartless a$$holes she has decided to stop... just stop accepting invitations out to dinners, invitations out for drinks and the random invitation out dancing from men who obviously will add nothing to her overall well-being as an intelligent, motivated, determined, beautiful young woman. And as my BFF was professing her new lease on life, I was realizing that not only was this the advice I had been giving her and my other besties after hearing about their multitude if dating disasters that could easily rival the plethora of examples from The Dating Diaries and Sex and the City combined, but also this may be foundation for my dating behavior (or lack thereof) for the last while - a Man Ban!
As the bottle of crisp, cold pinot grigio gradually empties and my bestie and my roommate compare and contrast dating war stories I daze off and consider how exhausting dating truly is. We work on our minds by becoming educated. We work on our body and souls using fitness and nutrition. We apprehensively put ourselves out there just to be abruptly ignored or downright rejected. So why do we put ourselves through this? The amount of time and energy that is put into finding a man is truly disturbing. And all for what? The same self-esteem killing cycle of rejection. OH HELL NO! So the revolution begins. From now on we are going to focus on our career goals, nourish our relationships with family and friends, and find new ways to make our lives more fulfilling regardless of whether a man is by our side. The Man Ban is less about removing men from our lives and more about spending more time enjoying the life we have and finding ways to make it better without the dependence of another. So come one come all! Join the revolution!
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Because men are the problem. Not women's unreal and unattainable expectations. Not the impossibly perfect versions of men that television, movies and books promise women on a daily basis. And definitely not the undeserved "I am a princess/queen who is owed the world" mentality that most females walk around with today. No, men are the problem. Honestly I would love for most of the women/girls who think this way to for one year live life as a man and have to deal with and date women, because I think most of you would realize how big of an apology you owe the male gender.
ReplyDeleteBut instead I'm certain most of you will just ignore this or think/say how wrong/disillusioned this response is. Hence why most of you remain unsatisfied and single. Best of luck to you all.
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