Its a Revolution! It's "The Man Ban"

What is "The Man Ban" you ask?  Well my BFF describes it as her decision to hit "the refresh button" on dating. After years of dating losers, douchebags and heartless a$$holes she has decided to stop... just stop accepting invitations out to dinners, invitations out for drinks and the random invitation out dancing from men who obviously will add nothing to her overall well-being as an intelligent, motivated, determined, beautiful young woman. And as my BFF was professing her new lease on life, I was realizing that not only was this the advice I had been giving her and my other besties after hearing about their multitude if dating disasters that could easily rival the plethora of examples from The Dating Diaries and Sex and the City combined, but also this may be foundation for my dating behavior (or lack thereof) for the last while - a Man Ban!

 

 

As the bottle of crisp, cold pinot grigio gradually empties and my bestie and my roommate compare and contrast dating war stories I daze off and consider how exhausting dating truly is. We work on our minds by becoming educated. We work on our body and souls using fitness and nutrition. We apprehensively put ourselves out there just to be abruptly ignored or downright rejected. So why do we put ourselves through this? The amount of time and energy that is put into finding a man     is truly disturbing. And all for what? The same self-esteem killing cycle of rejection. OH HELL NO!  So the revolution begins. From now on we are going to focus on our career goals, nourish our relationships with family and friends, and find new ways to make our lives more fulfilling regardless of whether a man is by our side. The Man Ban is less about removing men from our lives and more about spending more time enjoying the life we have and finding ways to make it better without the dependence of another. So come one come all! Join the revolution!

 

 

Have you or anyone you know come up with a dating revolution? Share, Tell, Join the conversation.

 

 

Snip, Snip...Circumcised VS Uncircumcised

 

I need to begin this post by explaining how and why this topic of conversation has been recently ongoing in my household. For those reading who may not know I live with my two friends, who like me are currently single... and very ready to mingle! Ever since myself and my roommate who I'll refer to as A decided to sign up roommate B for online dating our mornings have been filled with uncontrollable laughter and downright confusion regarding some of the guys B has been on dates with. From a close talker with bad B.O. to a coffee lover who doesn't know the difference between a Drip Coffee and a Caesar Cocktail! Clearly the city isn't full of winners but when its all said and done and B finally gets that spark she has been looking for what we REALLY want to know is ...IS HE CUT?

 

Between my friends and I, cut or not cut is a topic that randomly presents itself in conversation as more of a divided debate than anything. Some of us believe it feels better during intercourse and on the flip side it has been argued that once a man is aroused there is visually and physically no difference. Sometimes the discussion is more about our future decisions as parents; Would we or wouldn't we to our sons? Is it a necessary ritual that is a part of life or is it an inhumane out of date barbaric  practice?

 

Bottom Pic. circumcision procedure

 

Personally, I'm against circumcision. I find it completely unnecessary and when or if I have children of my own, specifically a son there is no way anyone could convince to me to have the procedure illustrated above done on my baby.  

 

Here are a few links that discuss circumcision from a medical stand point and circumcision in other parts of the world. I would love to hear your thoughts as well. So what do you prefer? Cut or Uncut?

 



*Dr. Raj

 

*Circumcision-propaganda-parodies